Chapter 2.2

If the first chapter of your life is your childhood, chapter 2: adulthood, Chapter 3: marriage, Chapter 4: Children

then we are chapter 4.3
but in the book of grief we are in

Chapter 2.2

This is the chapter where you have successfully gotten pregnant after a loss and are Figuratively holding your breath for 9 months while you beg and plead with the universe to not let it happen again.

You be come even more neurotic about your pregnancy and who you plan to tell when because you must preface it with the following:

We are NOT over our loss

Then quickly follow it up with

but we are pregnant again and very excited about the possibility of bringing home our baby this time around.

then you go through the usual list of suspect questions.

• how far along are you?
• when are you due?
• have you been sick?
• do you know what your are having?
• are you happy?
  

But it seems that amongst the usual suspects those of us like me should also be prepared for a specialized section of question for subsequent pregnancy after loss. the "OMG i can't believe you asked that question or made that comment"

• well it's about time!
  
• thanks goodness now your life can get back to normal.
  
• well what does the doctor say?
• will this one live?
  
• are you ready for this?
• well now you'll get to be parents.
• When i had my baby after... insert early miscarriage story told by random stranger
• it's a good thing you have an angel watching over this pregnancy (really that makes a difference are you freaking SURE!)

we haven't gotten to many of these comments, Thanks to fact that we have told almost no one well ok that isn't exactly true we have told lots of people in our support groups and our online grief network. but in real life we haven't told many people. it is getting harder for me to hide my belly so now i will need to tell people soon.

it has also been 6 months since we lost lucy and we are sure we are going to start to get the move on vibes from folks for sure now.